In a world of prenuptial agreements and marital uncertainties, there are those who get married or go into relationships because they genuinely love the person they are with. However, when love falls apart, getting up and getting back on our feet is not as easy as, “Just getting up and getting back into the saddle”. Often there are mountains to climb, and before we get to the foot of each mountain, we will first have to crawl out of our valleys or pits. Truly, being cast aside can make us feel lower than the ground.

This book was birthed out of a failed marriage and was almost named The Reasons I Did Not Die When She Left. However, it was named Separation, a Bitter Pill to Swallow in the end. Somewhere along the way of writing, the author’s perspective and message had changed. The author realised that he had learnt many valuable lessons from the failed attempt at becoming one with another person. He learnt that people can get sick, hate everyone, as well as the world around to the point of contemplating suicide, but in the end and with much grace, they live beyond the tears and heartbreak. Therefore, he wanted to help others using the lessons he had learnt. This is why, although the truths found in this book are blunt, and somewhat hard to swallow, they are covered in a good measure of wisdom.