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• Emmy van Deurzen

  In the book, we follow the story of her intense and unimaginably tight relationship with her twin, Carol. She tells us how hard it was for her mother to deal with these two premature babies and how they cried in their separate cots for the first years, until her mother finally put them in one cot, and they were quietened immediately, at peace for being reunited. They grew up in unison. “With separate bodies and one mind, we knelt to meet the world”. Wendy’s evocative turns of phrase always go to the essence of her experience and conjure up exactly how things were.
  
  Reading the poetic way in which Wendy expresses her deepest inner thoughts and feelings as well as her intellectual ideas about twinship you will be transported to a way of being only twins would truly understand. Wendy and Carol were both confused by their
  
  experiences of this closeness, so different from their relationships with other people. They searched together for the right way of living that intimacy, oneness, separateness, and mutual respect. For a long time, they each felt lost in the chaos of what this brought to their lives. I remember well the confusion and despair that was Wendy’s daily battleground. How wonderful to see how she has now shaped herself into an accomplished poet and author, able to articulate her own labors into a narrative that creates clarity and understanding. Each of us has similar battles to wage with ourselves and those near and dear to us, although they may not be as intense, dramatic, and traumatic as those of Wendy and Carol. Not all of us come through them with fortitude and lucidity. Wendy has used her plight to throw light on the predicament of identical twins. Her book should be required reading for those who work with twins or are a twin themselves. Her contribution to the therapeutic understanding of selfhood and the search for identity and separateness will be valuable to all therapists.

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